I just can't understand how you factor in loyalty so much, but it doesn't matter at all that Kobe demanded a trade, was very serious about it, and only didn't get dealt because the Lakers demanded so much in return for him that the team he would have went to would have been devoid of much talent. That's not showing loyalty. Sure, I bet he's very happy with the way it turned out, but that's irrelevant to this imo.
I don't have much of an issue with Kobe demanding the trade, but someone who has such a problem with stars wanting out because their teams aren't that good should, especially considering Kobe was in the ultimate destination for attracting players and he was the main reason why they no longer had Shaq and Phil.