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You get one do-over in life...what do you change?


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#1 SportsGuy

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Posted 18 September 2017 - 04:19 PM

When I ask this, I am not saying, well I would have bought google stock at a low price and made a ton of money.

 

I am talking something you legitimately were going to do (or thinking about doing) and decided not to do it...and now you have regret over it.

 

What would you change and if you would change something, do you worry what other changes it would have caused in your current life?
 



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Posted 18 September 2017 - 04:24 PM

When I was in college, I was planning to become a pharmacist.  I really wanted to see if I could come up with solutions to complex illnesses or diseases.  But I hated the entire process of getting there, I didn't feel like I was learning anything relevant to that, so I quit.  

 

I'm completely OK with how it turned out but I always wonder where that would've taken me.

 

I wish I could go back and not get married though.  I never believed in it and I was stupid to go against that.


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Posted 18 September 2017 - 04:33 PM

When I was working for Stan the Fan & Kenny Rosenthal's shows back in the 90s, when the Ravens got here, I was offered a full time job at WJFK, who did the games, did remotes with the team...etc. I had a lot of fun, and met a lot of cool people that I'm still semi friendly with today. But to start out, they wanted me to work overnights running the board, and doing other random things with the promotions department, all while still doing Stan's & Kenny's shows..I get that in that business you pretty much have to start at the bottom, and I wanted to be the next Bob Costas or whatever...But i was 25, and wanted to move in with my girlfriend at the time (now my wife), and needed to make more money..

 

I didn't do it, and sometimes do wonder what it could have turned into by now. I still am good friends with Stan to this day, I play fantasy Baseball with Scott Garceau, Jeremy Conn, and Stan if only because I want my son (12 years old now) to have a connection just in case he wants to try that career. 

 

That being said, I have a great life...Awesome wife, awesome kids, awesome house, awesome job,, etc. No complaints, but I do wonder sometimes.


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Posted 18 September 2017 - 04:43 PM

I wanted to be a football coach and always around the game. I played all the time but stopped at the college level because I was not physically gifted or motivated to be the best of the just barely guys. I coached high school level defense for four years and was offered a special assistant job at ODU when they started their program. Problem was it paid so little and I had a family. I wonder where I would be now like Seth if I followed through and toughed it out. I also am glad with the way I went and everything has worked out the way it should have but it makes you wonder...
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Posted 18 September 2017 - 06:33 PM

I would have gone to law school in Miami

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Posted 18 September 2017 - 10:42 PM

I would have not went to a doctor for my seizure, leading to the city and FD letting me go.
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Posted 19 September 2017 - 07:40 AM

I wish I would have paid attention in Spanish class and learned to be fluent in Spanish.

 

Not saying that it would have opened up any other doors for me in life, although I think it definitely helps, but I hate not knowing another language when most of the world's population outside of the USA speaks more than one language.


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 07:51 AM

Two big things, but they're pretty even.

1) When I moved back up to MD for work, instead of coming up, getting an apartment, etc...I'd have lived with my grandmother for a couple of years, and paid rent to live under her roof....build up my savings a little bit before I entered the "real world." I'm definitely financially good now, but the first couple of years were a bit of a slog, and this would have helped.

2) I stopped doing my daily running once my son was born, because I really just lost the energy. I used to run three miles a day, at least, every morning. I keep trying to get back into it, but it's difficult to routinely do it...making it a habit, and whatnot. I probably would have forced myself to do it every day, just so I wouldn't lose the will to do it.

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Posted 19 September 2017 - 07:51 AM

That's a good one, Sean.  I'll go with that, too.  Just got back from Spain and while I could say a few phrases, most of the time anyone I tried speaking to in Spanish would roll their eyes (as much as any service-industry person in a tourist area can get away with) and respond in English.

 

I guess that's also a nice one because in theory it's never too late.



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Posted 19 September 2017 - 07:54 AM

That's a good one, Sean.  I'll go with that, too.  Just got back from Spain and while I could say a few phrases, most of the time anyone I tried speaking to in Spanish would roll their eyes (as much as any service-industry person in a tourist area can get away with) and respond in English.

 

I guess that's also a nice one because in theory it's never too late.

 

I kinda want to do this to. If I ever end up moving to New York for my job, I really want to have this in my back pocket. I learned a bit in high school and college, and stopped when I double-booked myself on statistics. 



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Posted 19 September 2017 - 07:59 AM

Another one is that I more or less stopped reading for pleasure, which I used to do constantly as a kid, around the time I entered high school.  I remember getting my SAT scores back, killed the math but didn't do great on the verbal and immediately said to my Mom that I wish I didn't stop reading.

 

I've gotten back into it as an adult over the past 10 years or so.  Read for a while before bed every night (Kindle Paperwhite is great) and usually get through multiple reads any time I travel, especially if it's a long flight.

 

I don't really have any major decision hinge points in my life where I regret the decision I made.  A few small lost opportunities here and there, some weird sex I probably missed out on during my single (or girlfriends I knew weren't going anywhere) phase before getting back together with my now-wife, and a couple drugs I'd have liked to try that I never got around to.  Nothing major, which I think is a good thing.



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Posted 19 September 2017 - 08:35 AM

Do you believe in the multi-verse Mackus?  Maybe there is a Mackus out there that has always been a voracious reader, who hates math.

I think every human has numerous moments or conversations they'd like to do over.  Or fork-in-the-road moments where you make one choice, and wonder what-if you had taken the other.

I know I do.

I'm not consumed by it though.  I think it could drive you crazy if you play the what-if game too long.

And you also have to think about what other ramifications there would be to your life, if you changed X.

 

Until I'm buried (or probably burned); I'd like to think that anything I'd like to change... anything I'm not happy about, still has the ability to be changed (at-least for the most part).  There is the realization that's not completely true though, and sometimes you go too far down a road to turn back.


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 08:45 AM


2) I stopped doing my daily running once my son was born, because I really just lost the energy. I used to run three miles a day, at least, every morning. I keep trying to get back into it, but it's difficult to routinely do it...making it a habit, and whatnot. I probably would have forced myself to do it every day, just so I wouldn't lose the will to do it.

 

Running is definitely a "habit".  I would recommend to keep trying to get back into it.  If you can get it at it consistently for 4-6 weeks you'll start getting to that point again where you like it and/or you "have" to do it.



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Posted 19 September 2017 - 08:48 AM

I'm definitely at a moment in life where I'm continually and increasingly valuing staying in the moment, and getting out of my head. So I'll sit this one out. This is the type of exercise I'd engage in daily and drive myself crazy. Guess if I had to say something, that's what I'd do over. Just gotta live.
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Posted 19 September 2017 - 08:57 AM

Running is definitely a "habit".  I would recommend to keep trying to get back into it.  If you can get it at it consistently for 4-6 weeks you'll start getting to that point again where you like it and/or you "have" to do it.

 

I hear you, and I have to. I think I might have to do one of those couch-to-5K things to force myself into it. 



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Posted 19 September 2017 - 09:11 AM

There's a lot of things I think that I could have done over, but I'm not sure the results would have been favorable. 

 

What if I stayed in NC after school? What if I played the field instead of settling down so early? What if I chose to go to public school instead of private school? 

 

But I'm like...yeah, but my job is great, my wife is great...things are great. Nothing to really change there. 


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 09:16 AM

There's a lot of things I think that I could have done over, but I'm not sure the results would have been favorable. 

 

What if I stayed in NC after school? What if I played the field instead of settling down so early? What if I chose to go to public school instead of private school? 

 

But I'm like...yeah, but my job is great, my wife is great...things are great. Nothing to really change there. 

This is how I feel. No really big regrets or what ifs. And for that I am thankful.


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Posted 19 September 2017 - 09:31 AM

I think my biggest one is that i would have gone away to college (same school Chris went to).

 

Now, had I done that, I may have stayed down there (it was outside of Tampa) and maybe I don't end up meeting my wife and having my kids.  So, its really tough to say its a regret.

 

OTOH, I think it would have been a great experience and still may have come home and the same scenario played out.



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Posted 19 September 2017 - 11:04 AM

I would have not went to a doctor for my seizure, leading to the city and FD letting me go.


Ugh sorry to hear that man. They couldn't place you anywhere?
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Posted 19 September 2017 - 11:09 AM

^^^^

Thanks. They're supposed to. Its against the ADA to fire someone without making a reasonable accomodation first, like a desk position. But they didnt, so, lawsuit. Which might get resolved in 2-4 years, maybe.
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